Word "Mehr" or "Dowery!

The Quran mentions. several times in context with the Marital Relationship ... a Marital Gift..given from Husband to Wife..in Islam..which is regarded as Mehr ...in general....Consult Dictionary for social security reasons.

This word should NOT be mistaken for the Dowery Tradition in South Asia...where 'Jahez' is considered a compulsoray portion of the Marital ceremony, and is demanded from Husband...and given to the Wife...at wedding, by the family of the wife!

[4:24] And forbidden to you are married women, except such as your right hands possess. This has ALLAH enjoined on you. And allowed to you are those beyond that, that you may seek them by means of your property, marrying them properly and not committing fornication. And for the benefit you receive from them, give them their dowries, as fixed, and there is no blame on you what you do by mutual agreement after the fixing of the dowry. Surely ALLAH is All-Knowing, Wise.

[2:236] It shall be no sin for you if you divorce women while you have not touched them, nor settle for them a dowry. But provide for them - the rich man according to his means and the poor man according to his need - a provision in a becoming manner. This is an obligation upon the virtuous.

[2:237] And if you divorce them before you have touched them, but have settled upon them a dowry, then half of what you have settled shall be due from you, unless they remit, or he, in whose hands is the tie of marriage, should remit. And that you should remit is nearer to righteousness. And do not forget to do good to one another. Surely ALLAH sees what you do.

Word NIKAH!

Nikah is an Islamic Marital bond...between a Man and a Woman

Consult Dictionary

These are the  few places where the Quran uses the verb "Marry"....

Which  mean "Marry with them" And/Or "Marry them with others"

One has to be thoughtful concerning these meanings...

4:3  ,4:22, 4:25  ,2:221 and....24:32  فَٱنكِحُو    لَا تَنكِحُواْ   فَٱنكِحُو   وَلَا تُنكِحُواْ    وَأَنكِحُواْ

when you study the concerning verses in corresponding posts. Thanks!

The General Order for Nikah..in Surah Al-Nisa (4:22-27)

(22) Forbidden unto you are your mothers, and your daughters, and your sisters, and your father's sisters, and your mother's sisters, and your brother's daughters and your sister's daughters, and your foster-mothers, and your foster-sisters, and your mothers-in-law, and your step-daughters who are under your protection (born) of your women unto whom ye have gone in - but if ye have not gone in unto them, then it is no sin for you (to marry their daughters) - and the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins. And (it is forbidden unto you) that ye should have two sisters together, except what hath already happened (of that nature) in the past. Lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful. (23) And all married women (are forbidden? unto you) save those (captives) whom your right hands possess. It is a decree of Allah for you. Lawful unto you are all beyond those mentioned, so that ye seek them with your wealth in honest wedlock, not debauchery. And those of whom ye seek content (by marrying them), give unto them their portions as a duty. And there is no sin for you in what ye do by mutual agreement after the duty (hath been done). Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Wise. (24) And whoso is not able to afford to marry free, believing women, let them marry from the believing maids whom your right hands possess. Allah knoweth best (concerning) your faith. Ye (proceed) one from another; so wed them by permission of their folk, and give unto them their portions in kindness, they being honest, not debauched nor of loose conduct. And if when they are honourably married they commit lewdness they shall incur the half of the punishment (prescribed) for free women (in that case). This is for him among you who feareth to commit sin. But to have patience would be better for you. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. (25) Allah would explain to you and guide you by the examples of those who were before you, and would turn to you in mercy. Allah is Knower, Wise. (26) And Allah would turn to you in mercy; but those who follow vain desires would have you go tremendously astray. (27

Possessed by right hand =Slave women ..not Orphan women

Remember there's NO type of "Temporary Bond of Nikah" in mentioned in Quran.

Marrying Polytheists?

وَلَا تَنكِحُواْ ٱلۡمُشۡرِكَـٰتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤۡمِنَّ‌ۚ وَلَأَمَةٌ۬ مُّؤۡمِنَةٌ خَيۡرٌ۬ مِّن مُّشۡرِكَةٍ۬ وَلَوۡ أَعۡجَبَتۡكُمۡ‌ۗ وَلَا تُنكِحُواْ ٱلۡمُشۡرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤۡمِنُواْ‌ۚ وَلَعَبۡدٌ۬ مُّؤۡمِنٌ خَيۡرٌ۬ مِّن مُّشۡرِكٍ۬ وَلَوۡ أَعۡجَبَكُمۡ‌ۗ أُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ يَدۡعُونَ إِلَى ٱلنَّارِ‌ۖ وَٱللَّهُ يَدۡعُوٓاْ إِلَى ٱلۡجَنَّةِ وَٱلۡمَغۡفِرَةِ بِإِذۡنِهِۦ‌ۖ وَيُبَيِّنُ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمۡ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ (٢٢١)

2:221 Do not marry unbelieving women (Polytheists), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to Polytheists, until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But God beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise.

So Nikha  (The Muslim Marital Bond) Consult dictionary...can take place only if both parthers ar Monotheist (Believe in only one God)

This subject become more clear by the following verse of the Quran.

60:10     O you who believe! when believing women come to you flying, then examine them; Allah knows best their faith; then if you find them to be believing women, do not send them back to the unbelievers, neither are these (women) lawful for them, nor are those (men) lawful for them, and give them what they have spent; and no blame attaches to you in marrying them when you give them their dowries; and hold not to the ties of marriage of unbelieving women, and ask for what you have spent, and let them ask for what they have spent. That is Allah's judgment; He judges between you, and Allah is Knowing, Wise.

Multiple Marriages?

4:1

يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلنَّاسُ

O mankind

ٱتَّقُواْ رَبَّكُمُ

Fear your Lord

ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفۡسٍ۬ وَٲحِدَةٍ۬T

The one who created you from a single soul

وَخَلَقَ مِنۡہَا زَوۡجَهَا

and created from it,its mate

وَبَثَّ مِنۡہُمَا رِجَالاً۬ كَثِيرً۬ا وَنِسَآءً۬‌ۚ

and dispersed from them,many men and women

‌ۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ ٱلَّذِى تَسَآءَلُونَ بِهِۦ

and fear Allah whom you ask with it

وَٱلۡأَرۡحَامَ‌ۚ

and the wombs (relations)

إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيۡكُمۡ رَقِيبً۬ا (١)

Allah is over you Ever-Watchful.(1)

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4:2

وَءَاتُواْ ٱلۡيَتَـٰمَىٰٓ أَمۡوَٲلَہُمۡ‌ۖ

and give ORPHANS (helpless children, women, widows..etc)their wealth

وَلَا تَتَبَدَّلُواْ ٱلۡخَبِيثَ بِٱلطَّيِّبِ‌ۖ

and do not exchange the bad with the good

(means do not exchange your bad things with their good things)

وَلَا تَأۡكُلُوٓاْ أَمۡوَٲلَهُمۡ إِلَىٰٓ أَمۡوَٲلِكُمۡ‌ۚ

and do not consume their wealth with your wealth

(do not mix-up their wealth with yours to eat-up!)

إِنَّهُ ۥ كَانَ حُوبً۬ا كَبِيرً۬ا (٢)

indeed it is a sin. (2)

4:3

وَإِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ أَلَّا تُقۡسِطُواْ فِى ٱلۡيَتَـٰمَىٰ

if you fear that you can't deal fairly with orphans (under-discussion)

فَٱنكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ

Then marry them what is suitable or easy for you, amongst the women

(obviously "orphan" women eligible to be married)

مَثۡنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ‌ۖ

two, and(or) three and(or) four

فَإِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ أَلَّا تَعۡدِلُواْ فَوَٲحِدَةً

but if you fear,that you cant do justice, then ONE

أَوۡ مَا مَلَكَتۡ أَيۡمَـٰنُكُمۡ‌ۚ ذَٲلِكَ أَدۡنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُواْ (٣)

or what your right hand possesses (3)

(means already under your guardianship)

Another Aspect:

فَٱنكِحُواْ So Marry them to someone eligible...

May NOT mean always, that you marry with them, but, it can be MARRY THEM with someone suitable , or find a match for them to marry them.

Anyways the subject may deal with the Multiple Marriages ...which were recommended after the Battle of Uhad ,when many Muslim men lost their lives ...leaving their wives and children ,helpless...

The subject become clear with these words...

4:19,20,21

يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمۡ أَن تَرِثُواْ ٱلنِّسَآءَ كَرۡهً۬ا‌ۖ وَلَا تَعۡضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذۡهَبُواْ بِبَعۡضِ مَآ ءَاتَيۡتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّآ أَن يَأۡتِينَ بِفَـٰحِشَةٍ۬ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ۬‌ۚ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِ‌ۚ فَإِن كَرِهۡتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكۡرَهُواْ شَيۡـًٔ۬ا وَيَجۡعَلَ ٱللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيۡرً۬ا ڪَثِيرً۬ا (١٩) وَإِنۡ أَرَدتُّمُ ٱسۡتِبۡدَالَ زَوۡجٍ۬ مَّڪَانَ زَوۡجٍ۬ وَءَاتَيۡتُمۡ إِحۡدَٮٰهُنَّ قِنطَارً۬ا فَلَا تَأۡخُذُواْ مِنۡهُ شَيۡـًٔا‌ۚ أَتَأۡخُذُونَهُ ۥ بُهۡتَـٰنً۬ا وَإِثۡمً۬ا مُّبِينً۬ا

وَكَيۡفَ تَأۡخُذُونَهُ ۥ وَقَدۡ أَفۡضَىٰ بَعۡضُڪُمۡ إِلَىٰ بَعۡضٍ۬ وَأَخَذۡنَ مِنڪُم مِّيثَـٰقًا غَلِيظً۬ا (٢١)

4:19 O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may Take away part of the dowery  have given them,-except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good.

4:20 But if ye decide to take a wife in place of another, even if ye had given the latter a whole treasure for dower, Take not the least bit of it back: Would ye take it by slander and manifest wrong?

4:21 And marry not women whom your fathers married,- except what is past: It was shameful and odious,- an abominable custom indeed.

And how could ye take it when ye have gone in unto each other, and they have Taken from you a solemn covenant?

This subject becomes more clear ,Inshallah!...when we study the following verses of the same Surah ,carefully, which are connected to the main subject of ORPHANS...

4:127     And they ask you a decision about women. Say: Allah makes known to you His decision concerning them, and that which is recited to you in the Book concerning female orphans whom you do not give what is appointed for them while you desire to marry them, and concerning the weak among children, and that you should deal towards orphans with equity; and whatever good you do, Allah surely knows it.

4:128     And if a woman fears ill usage or desertion on the part of her husband, there is no blame on them, if they effect a reconciliation between them, and reconciliation is better, and avarice has been made to be present in the (people's) minds; and if you do good (to others) and guard (against evil), then surely Allah is aware of what you do.

4:129     And you have it not in your power to do justice between wives, even though you may wish (it), but be not disinclined (from one) with total disinclination, so that you leave her as it were in suspense; and if you effect a reconciliation and guard (against evil), then surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.

4:130     And if they separate, Allah will render them both free from want out of His ampleness, and Allah is Ample-giving, Wise.

(kindly read the post "Marry Singles", also... for better understanding)

Marry SINGLES

وَأَنكِحُواْ ٱلۡأَيَـٰمَىٰ مِنكُمۡ وَٱلصَّـٰلِحِينَ مِنۡ عِبَادِكُمۡ وَإِمَآٮِٕڪُمۡ‌ۚ إِن يَكُونُوفُقَرَآءَ يُغۡنِهِمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦ‌ۗ وَٱللَّهُ وَٲسِعٌ

 عَلِيمٌ۬ (٣٢)

وَلۡيَسۡتَعۡفِفِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغۡنِيَہُمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦ‌ۗ وَٱلَّذِينَ يَبۡتَغُونَ ٱلۡكِتَـٰبَ مِمَّا مَلَكَتۡ أَيۡمَـٰنُكُمۡ فَكَاتِبُوهُمۡ إِنۡ عَلِمۡتُمۡ فِيہِمۡ خَيۡرً۬ا‌ۖ وَءَاتُوهُم مِّن مَّالِ ٱللَّهِ ٱلَّذِىٓ ءَاتَٮٰكُمۡ‌ۚ وَلَا تُكۡرِهُواْ فَتَيَـٰتِكُمۡ عَلَى ٱلۡبِغَآءِ إِنۡ أَرَدۡنَ تَحَصُّنً۬ا لِّتَبۡتَغُواْ عَرَضَ ٱلۡحَيَوٰةِ ٱلدُّنۡيَا‌ۚ وَمَن يُكۡرِههُّنَّ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ مِنۢ بَعۡدِ إِكۡرَٲهِهِنَّ غَفُورٌ۬ رَّحِيمٌ۬ (٣٣)

(24:32 and 33) And marry those among you who are single 
(i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Sâlihûn (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allâh will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allâh is All-Sufficent for His creatures' needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people). (32)

And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allâh enriches them of His Bounty. And such of your slaves as seek a writing (of emancipation), give them such writing, if you find that there is good and honesty in them. And give them something (yourselves) out of the wealth of Allâh which He has bestowed upon you. And force not your maids to prostitution, if they desire chastity, in order that you may make a gain in the (perishable) goods of this worldly life. But if anyone compels them (to prostitution), then after such compulsion, Allâh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful (to those women, i.e. He will forgive them because they have been forced to do this evil act unwillingly). (33)

(Quran Explorer...Translation of Dr. Mohsin)

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The Quran Claims;

[4:82] Why do they not study the Quran carefully? If it were from other than GOD, they would have found in it numerous contradictions.

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PROBLEM:

There's no ambiguity in the above verses. MARRY SINGLES, and if you can't find a suitable match/means then wait...you can remain UNMARRIED..if you remain chaste...

And Now....Back to 4:1,2 and 3 (Referred to my post "Multiple Marriages?")

Divorce Dramas?

Muslims who lack knowledge of the Quran or do not respect the divine words have invented their own ways to deal the issue of Divorce.

Many Muslims think that saying the word of "Divorce" three times, simultaneously, declares the ultimate Divorce.

This is contrary to the messege in Quran, because, after seriously deciding upon divorcing one has to WAIT.(2:226) The couple is blessed by the opportunity of Re-thinking and Re-counciling .(2:227)

She waits for a certain period to see if she is conceiving his child...or not! (2:228)

 It can happen TWICE ONLY...

The THIRD TIME means, the Divorce is in effect.(2:229)

Now the wife is NOT HALAAL (Not-Permissible) for the husband and becomes a stranger.It is a genuine punishment!



She can only become permissible to this man again , if she happen to marry another man and the other man divorse her ,again...which is impossible practically...yet some  Ignorant Muslims have invented the tradition of HALAAHA...to make their ex-wife, Halaal to them again. Which is an extremely insulting tradition.

Ayat 2:228 tells women has similar rights to men...yet men has a privilege 
Ayat 2:229 tells that women can FREE herself by giving her Marital Gift (Mehr) back to her husband, she doesn't want to live with, anymore!

Divorce and Quran

Very Clear Account!

2:226     Those who swear that they will not go in to their wives should wait four months; so if they go back, then Allah is surely Forgiving, Merciful.

2:227     And if they have resolved on a divorce, then Allah is surely Hearing, Knowing.

2:228     And the divorced women should keep themselves in waiting for three courses; and it is not lawful for them that they should conceal what Allah has created in their wombs, if they believe in Allah and the last day; and their husbands have a better right to take them back in the meanwhile if they wish for reconciliation; and they have rights similar to those against them in a just manner, and the men are a degree above them, and Allah is Mighty, Wise.

2:229     Divorce may be (pronounced) twice, then keep (them) in good fellowship or let (them) go with kindness; and it is not lawful for you to take any part of what you have given them, unless both fear that they cannot keep within the limits of Allah; then if you fear that they cannot keep within the limits of Allah, there is no blame on them for what she gives up to become free thereby. These are the limits of Allah, so do not exceed them and whoever exceeds the limits of Allah these it is that are the unjust.

2:230     So if he divorces her she shall not be lawful to him afterwards until she marries another husband; then if he divorces her there is no blame on them both if they return to each other (by marriage), if they think that they can keep within the limits of Allah, and these are the limits of Allah which He makes clear for a people who know.

2:231     And when you divorce women and they reach their prescribed time, then either retain them in good fellowship or set them free with liberality, and do not retain them for injury, so that you exceed the limits, and whoever does this, he indeed is unjust to his own soul; and do not take Allah's communications for a mockery, and remember the favor of Allah upon you, and that which He has revealed to you of the Book and the Wisdom, admonishing you thereby; and be careful (of your duty to) Allah, and know that Allah is the Knower of all things.

2:232     And when you have divorced women and they have ended -- their term (of waiting), then do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree among themselves in a lawful manner; with this is admonished he among you who believes in Allah and the last day, this is more profitable and purer for you; and Allah knows while you do not know.

2:233     And the mothers should suckle their children for two whole years for him who desires to make complete the time of suckling; and their maintenance and their clothing must be -- borne by the father according to usage; no soul shall have imposed upon it a duty but to the extent of its capacity; neither shall a mother be made to suffer harm on account of her child, nor a father on account of his child, and a similar duty (devolves) on the (father's) heir, but if both desire weaning by mutual consent and counsel, there is no blame on them, and if you wish to engage a wet-nurse for your children, there is no blame on you so long as you pay what you promised for according to usage; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah and know that Allah sees what you do.

(Refered to Divorce Dramas...)